Susan Lee: Emotional Intelligence

Theses days, many people say that having emotional intelligence is one of the most important abilities in success. What is emotional intelligence? In brief, Emotional intelligence includes five sub-skills, including how we monitor our own and other's feelings and emotions, how we discriminate and assess and how we use knowledge to guide our thinking and actions. It includes self-awareness, self-control, self-motivation, empathy and social skills. In my opinion, among them, self-control and social skills are most important components of emotional intelligence.

Firstly, I believe that self-control is an important part of emotional intelligence. Self-control helps people to build up ability to manage emotional states. It helps people to know what their feelings are and foster ability to choose how they feel and help people able to relieve their stress and tensions. Futhermore, self-control leads people to make correct judgements. When people need to make judgements, it always helps them to make effective decisions for better outcomes for themselves and others at a proper time. Sometimes, people should handle emotions when they are under some conditions as impatience, immediate gratification, fear, desire and uncontrollable anger; also, they need to solve problems while they are in those situation. Also, self-control guides people to find the best solution to solve problem.

Secondly, I realize that social skills are also an important component of emotional intelligence. Sucess today is closely linked to how people deal with others; in other words, a certain level of manners is required for normal social intercourse. Understanding and conceding to each other , it helps people to make a progressive society where we respect each other. From this point of view, having social skills is a requisite for workplace and school. Social skills cultivate the ability of cooperation which is needed to complete the task or avert a possible crisis. No matter how develop an individual system may be, all coworkers and peers keenly feel the necessity of mutual cooperation in the workplace and school. Social-skills conduct people to work in teams more productively and harmoniously.

In conclusion, having self-control and social-skills are more important than having self-awareness, self-motivation and empathy of Emotional intelligence. Of course, those cannot said to be unimportant components. When these skills are well-balanced, they not only help people to communicate and solve problem, but also lead to win-win outcomes in any situation