Ali and Students

Essay07/07/02
David Liu
Same-sex Marriage is Wrong

Actually, it is true that in 2005, Canada’s House of Commons approved of the same-sex marriage and legalized adoptions by same-sex couples. However, it does not mean that seam-sax marriage has become a new trend of human beings’ marriage style, nor does mean that it has been accepted by traditional families. Nevertheless, personally, I still think that same-sex marriage is wrong for two reasons: it is against nature and a threat to the traditional family.

First of all, same-sex marriage is against our nature. Everything constituting nature depends on its opposite side; without its opposite side, the other side can no longer exist. As nobody can deny the fact that there is no earth without sun, and no moon without earth, we cannot deny the essence of nature either: there is no negative without positive. Human beings are just a part of our nature, and nature created human beings with both sexes: male and female. Naturally, there is no world without male, and there is no world without female; by only keeping the balance can our nature become real nature. Certainly, our mother nature knows that only keeping the balance is not enough; without new generation, nature can ages, decays, and finally vanishes. This is why we call our nature ‘mother nature’. And as for human beings, the nature is to have the capacity of procreating. Obviously, same-sex marriage has no such function to bear offspring.

Secondly, same-sex marriage is a threat to the traditional families’ ethics. For several thousands years, people have recognized the fact that a family should be composed of one man and one woman united in marriage, and in most occasions, bearing at least one child. Meanwhile, as a special condition, people may call a single father or mother with one or several children ‘a family’ but never call the union which made up by two men or two women (with or without children) ‘a family.’ This is not only because it is psychologically so ‘strange’ (how do we put ‘two men’ or ‘two women’ at their proper positions respectively within one family?), but also because this kind of ‘union’ is physically non-procreative. That is why we should say that same-sex family also ruins the basis of family. Some same-sex families might argue that they can adopt babies. However, it is crystal clear that adopting children by same-sex couples has its harmful aspects compared to the opposite-sex ones. The most severe result is that it could damage these children’s personalities. As soon as they are adopted by same-sex marriage couples, they are deprived of either male or female role models, facing either ‘two mothers’ or ‘two fathers’ strange condition. I deeply believe that almost all the normal children cannot tolerate such difficult situation. As they grow, most of them could become more and more confused about the fact and absolutely could suffer from every pressure that comes from their schoolmates, neighbors, and even their own relatives. And then, it is obvious that both their physical and psychological behaviors would be deeply affected and misled. Furthermore, generally speaking, adopted children tend to be easily harassed or abused by their stepfathers and mothers, and which is worse, when their stepfathers and mothers are same-sex couples. As far as I am concerned, a large number of same-sex couples have their own sexual behavior. We have to recognize the fact that both the following situations are nothing but real crimes to the children: to be accidentally seen the scene on the spot by their kids, and on the occasion that the children are forced to carry out the same sexual activities. In short, adoptions by same-sex couples place these children in an undesirable environment and could destroy their lives for good.

In conclusion, same-sex marriage is not only against nature but against current society’s ethics as well. Although it is legal in Canada, it should not be advocated.